“What a bitch/asshole. Badmouthing me behind my back. He/she should grow a backbone and say it to my face.”
I don’t know if you’ve experienced this kind of situation before but I’ve heard it so many times God forbid I should hear it from another person.
Very often, I hear people getting upset, complaining when they found out someone has talked crap about them behind their backs. They prefer their gossipers to say it straight to their faces, not their butts.
I, for one, have never thought that way. I used to get upset when someone talks bad about me behind my back but I like confrontation as much as I like having my teeth pulled out with a plier. Yep. No.
Now even if I do like having my teeth pulled out with pliers, which I don’t, I still wouldn’t say things like “say it to my face”. Unless that crap people talk about behind my back are actually constructive pieces of advice, designed to make me a better human being, I would rather not have it spit to my face.
They are talking behind your back, emphasis on the word ‘behind’, for a reason. They are ‘behind’, which means, you’re ahead of them. And why would you listen to people who are behind you?
I’ve said this before and I’m gonna say it again. No one understands you better than yourself. Someone saying something doesn’t make that something true. Someone saying you’re stupid doesn’t make you stupid, does it?
Don’t waste your breath and energy on people who talk about you behind your back. They’re there for a reason. Let them be there to serve an example of what you shouldn’t do. Their presence should make you a stronger and a better version of you.
Don’t turn around and engage. Walk away and leave them where they exactly are. Behind you.
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